Sunday, January 24, 2010

A dirty little secret

Mr Stef has a dirty little secret. It's not my place to say and I don't indulge in idle gossip.


You want to know?

Well, you musn't tell anyone. Comprende?

Mr Stef is having an affair.

With two other women.

I'm okay with it. Really...truly I am.

You see it's an emotional affair. You might even say an affair of the heart. It's been going on for a long time.

I've known about it since we got together seven years ago. To be honest it was one of the stipulations of getting involved with him. I had to accept it. It was who he was and there was no way he would end it.

I've come to terms with it. It's taken a lot of time and patience. I won't say that it hasn't bothered me. There's definitely been ups and downs. Times when I didn't think I could go on.

Then Miss E was born, and of course I had to think of her.

I don't know the women that well. I'm only really able to distinguish them by their looks. I don't even want to know their names. I think if I did it would be like acknowledging it's okay? And I know its not.

You want to see them don't you? You want to know what they look like? I can't blame you, I did too. I'm a woman after all, and I needed to know what I was up against.

I've trawled my archives and found photo's. Before you look, please prepare yourself. One of them is taken when the kids were with him and her.

Mr Stef is a Muso. Yes, a musician. He plays brass instruments and its been the bane of my life for some time. Some people are golf widows, I'm a brass instrument widow. His flugel horn and trumpet mean SO much to him. I would even say he gives them more tlc than I get. Hmmph!

So Mr Stef's new pseudonym is.....Music Man. I tossed around a few ideas. Clean freak - he's more of a tidy freak or to-do-list freak though. Music Man just suits him don't you think? Look at him doing his bit for the local Brass band.

This week will be dedicated to the special folks in my life. I'll tell you a little bit about each and every one. Can't promise a dirty little secret on each, but i'll rack my brains!

My family and afraid. Be very afraid.

:o) xx


  1. I've a neighbour with the same 'issue'. He swears he is open about it but he will only meet with her on Thursday nights when his wife is visiting her mother. He says this is because his kids don't need to know but you gotta wonder sometimes, after all kids are resilient. I'll have to show him this post to help him realise that he is not alone and as much as it will hurt those in his family he knows he needs to be open about it.

  2. Mostly he keeps them behind a closed bedroom door, I saw this with my own eyes. I wonder what this is doing to the children, can't be good when they have to share their father with not one but three women, and I also hear that he takes them out occasionally and spends money buying them books, or so he says.

    I laughed at this this morning.

  3. Have you seen the movie, The Music Man? I LOVE it!!!!

  4. Fantastic! But brass banders are ok, they're allowed! My hubby's other woman is called DELL.....very skinny and black and shiny, and he flaunts her in front of my face all the time lol


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